Philippians 4:6-7 (NKJV)
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”
How do you behave when something goes wrong? Do you rant, rave and find someone to blame? Or, do you obsess over every detail while trying to “fix” the problem?
- If you hadn’t left the gas tank on empty, I wouldn’t have been late for work.
- If you had studied more, you wouldn’t have failed the test.
- If I had worked harder and networked more, I would have received the promotion.
- If you hadn’t purchased that new car, we would have more money.
Musings like these, cause upset. Why? The focus is on the past. The past cannot be corrected. Only the future can be changed. Change your future through your present course of action—starting with how you think when life doesn’t unfold the way you planned.
Philippians 4:8 (NLT)
“Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.”
Assume the best. Maybe it’s not someone else’s fault. You could be jumping to conclusions. Choose to believe the best. We all know how to do this. Just make the excuses for someone else that you make for yourself. If you were late, it would be because: you lost track of time; someone called right as you were about to leave; there was a traffic accident, and the excuses never end. So, if your co-worker is late for an important meeting, don’t assume he is unprofessional. Extend the grace card–no criticism or judgment for an unusual lapse in an otherwise stellar individual.
When the worst is true, say the least. A person who is guilty of wrongdoing already knows they’re at fault. After the initial confrontation of the issue (whether it’s with the individual or through an authority) and resolution of the problem, let it go. Don’t keep reminding the person of their mistake after they have already apologized and paid for their error.
Love the loudest. Here’s the opportunity for real joy. Be willing to continue fellowship with the person who has disappointed you, as if the incident had never happened. God gives us new mercy (forgiveness and kindness) each morning (Matthew 18:21-22). The rising of the sun symbolizes a fresh start. Renew your mind each day with fresh thoughts toward everyone. Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow hasn’t come. But you do have beautiful now. Enjoy it.
3 Good Questions for Worry-Free Living.
- Have I prayed about the issue? If you’ve prayed, then don’t worry. God will tell you how to handle it.
- Have I done my part? If you’ve done your part, don’t worry.
- Is the situation within my control? If not, leave it with God—it must be His problem.