You step into the foyer, the sharp tap of heels clicking against the cool marble echo loudly in your ears. Suit-clad people bustle about the lobby as their expensive designer briefcases swing with a sense of purpose. You follow them into the chrome and mirrored box waiting to go to the top floor. Traveling ten seconds with these very important people seems like an eternity in the awkward silence forced by the elevator. You wonder, “How will I ever fit in with these people?”
We’ve all experienced times when we didn’t feel good enough. Whether it’s going to that important job interview; attending a gala or fundraiser full of “Who’s Who”; or simply going to the beach, we’re bound to run into people who are intimidating.
The key to eliminating insecurity is to know who we are in Christ. Knowing our position in Christ isn’t a spooky, mystical concept when we observe it in action.
Check out these signs of a secure woman whose foundation is based on her relationship with God.
- The success of others does not make you feel “less.”
- You are not skeptical of compliments–you receive them with grace.
- You can receive constructive criticism without taking offense.
- You know your weaknesses and limitations, but are not condemned by them–you have strategies for offsetting them.
- You do not have to be right about everything. You realize that sometimes you are wrong and sometimes someone else has a better idea.
- You realize that there are people who are smarter, prettier, wealthier, wiser, stronger, and more “whatever” than you. Yet, when you meet them, you still really like yourself and are not intimidated by them. Instead, you are able to learn from them and appreciate their wonderful qualities.
- You don’t feel the need to find something wrong with everybody.
- You don’t put yourself down.
- You don’t assume that other people don’t like you.
- When you know someone doesn’t like you, you don’t feel compelled to make them.
- You help others become all they can be.
- You don’t love yourself because of what you have accomplished, how much money you have, your marital status, your education, your background, et cetera. You love yourself because you are a child of God.
- You know you can handle any obstacle through Jesus Christ. You are not afraid of a challenge or difficult times.
- You don’t feel compelled to brag or flaunt your material possessions and accomplishments.
- Your self-worth is not governed by your appearance–you can have a bad hair day and still have a terrific day!
- You can submit to godly authority and confront ungodly control.
- You can live through betrayal and rejection without becoming bitter.
- You can “share” your friends and loved ones–you are not jealous or possessive.
- You know how to say “NO” and when to say “YES.”
- You conduct your life according to the Word of God and not the expectations of others.
In ourselves, we probably have many reasons to doubt. But through Jesus Christ, we have every reason to have total confidence. Remember…
Ephesians 1:4-6, New Living Translation
“Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes. God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure. So we praise God for the glorious grace he has poured out on us who belong to his dear Son.”